About Polly
Somatic Sexologist | S*x and Relationship Coach |
Speaker | Educator
Polly is a Somatic Sexologist, Relationship Coach, broadcaster on the award-winning Dirty Mother Pukka podcast, and a compelling public speaker, captivating audiences from London's West End (with Live Nation) to major festival arenas like The Big Retreat.
With extensive experience in educational leadership, Polly is a fierce advocate for revolutionising how we teach healthy relationships, intimacy, and emotional intelligence to future generations. Trained by the renowned Somatica® Institute in sexology, she seamlessly integrates evidence-based somatic techniques, her educational insights, and powerful storytelling to inspire deep self-awareness and sustainable personal transformation.
Whether she's unpacking the juicy complexities of relationships and parenting for her 250,000 monthly podcast listeners, coaching curious individuals, or igniting fearless conversations on stage, Polly is committed to disrupting outdated beliefs about sexuality and self-worth. Her mission is clear: guiding people from shame and disconnection toward curiosity, pleasure, and joyful connection.
When I tell people “I'm a sexologist”, it’s usually met with, “what tricks can you show me?”
But the truth is, my work goes far beyond sex. Starting with the relationship you have with yourself.
And that's where most people get stuck, not because they lack desire or technique, but because they're following scripts that were never written for them.
Like a Socratic Lover, I enter relationships without a fixed script. I don't claim to have all the answers, because none of us do. Instead, I commit to asking the difficult questions that guide us toward truth, and by 'truth,' I mean what's true for you.
My role is to help you see that you are not broken, and your partner(s) are not the enemy, the system is. The fairytale narratives we were sold were a MASSIVE LIE, and now we lack the cultural capacity to tolerate complexity in relationships. We were taught that our worth comes from others' validation, not from within. Binary thinking keeps us stuck: right or wrong, broken or fixed, victim or villain. My work dismantles those simplistic narratives and raises the standard of how we show up for one another… (warts and all).
I don't offer quick fixes—because there's no such thing. My focus is on the depth and quality of connection and intimacy, prioritising acceptance of who your partner is, rather than who you hope they might become.
Through somatic practices and honest questioning, I help individuals and couples navigate the messiness of real relationships: conflict, difference, desire, pleasure, sexuality, and the courage to show up as you actually are, not as you think you should be.
Because when you're disconnected from your body, you're disconnected from your capacity for curiosity, presence, and truth. And when you're performing a script instead of living your actual life, intimacy, sexual or otherwise, becomes impossible.
If you're a curious human who senses there's more available in your relationships, more honesty, more depth, more acceptance, but you're unsure where to begin, consider this your invitation.
I am not here to rescue you and I won't give you a new script to follow. But I will walk beside you as you question the old ones, discover what's true for you, and build relationships that reflect who you actually are.
If something inside you feels ready, even just a whisper, trust it
